Step 1:
Strike up a small conversation. This will help you learn little things that will come in handy in the future. If you like a girl, don't let her slip away, tell her the truth, but if you don't like her and she told you that she does, don't say anything...it can break her heart. And when she tells you that, and, you don't like her, tell her that she's a great person. Girls like it when boys say they like something that they did or either said you're great at something. All girls are different, so be aware of the signs. Listen to the tone of her voice: if she's shy, the tone of her voice might be a little more soft, and she might start to play with her hair (smoothing it down, twirling, flipping), adjusting her clothes, and might stare at you. Another sign she likes you is if she laughs at only your boring or stupid joke. (Though, don't use bad jokes as a test, or you'll risk looking like a comedy dork.) She may not be able to look you straight in the eye and she might giggle a lot because she is thinking of funny, nice gossip.
Watch for signs of flirting. If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Flirting girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends, and it can be misconstrued as a crush. Although some girls have no idea they are flirting. Most girls do not want to be obvious, the flirting ones might flirt with you a little bit less or they might flirt with you even more. Either way, don't "flirt around". Do not flirt with other girls. If she ever sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl hugging you, she may jump to conclusions and assume she doesn't mean anything to you. And she has nothing you like or she doesn't act the way you like girls.
Notice if she gives you random hugs. With this, you can go along with it if you want, or just act busy like you're late for class or something.
Notice if she "accidentally" bumps into you more often than what people do (she's obviously trying to touch you or feel how strong or soft you are). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. Tell her it was okay and you're fine. But conversely, don't assume that she doesn't like you because her fall didn't touch you. She may be too nervous of you to touch you yet. Break the touch barrier yourself. She may also find other reasons to touch you, such as by lightly hitting you about the head, or soft punching to the body.
Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. Some girls might just be staring so don't think she loves you and wants to kiss. But if she holds the stare, and you see love in her eyes, then she is confident and she may make the first move. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.
Look at her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you. If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" Her friends might be making it up, however, just to tease her. So you should probably listen to stuff like, "stop teasing me!" or "be quiet! He might hear!!" When she is having a conversation with her friends, and you come over, she might stop talking all of a sudden. This likely means you were the subject of the recently ended conversation. If she likes you and she told her friends about you, they might come up to you and start a random conversation about things such as: Who would you rather date me or (her name), who do you like better, who is the hottest, would you marry (her name) or me, etc. If they name a list of about 3 people and her name is in the list, she probably told her friends about you and they're trying to search for clues to see how you feel about her.
Look out for the damsels in distress. If you're outside and the girl you like is nearby and starts loudly saying "I'm cold!", that's a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. This is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her. If there are other guys and she likes one of those guys, however, she might act disappointed when you offer yours to her first, look for her mad and tell her that who ever she likes gave it to him to give it to her. In which case at least you'll know how she feels and can move on. Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at something, and say that they can't do it. That is your chance to offer some assistance, and she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to see your reaction.
Smile at her. Do a natural smile - don't freak her out. If she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, she is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.
Watch her body language. You can gather a lot about a girl by her body language and there are a lot of signs that will tell you she's interested. For example, if a girl has her torso towards you in an open manner this means she is confident talking with you. If she has a 'closed' body position (ie. legs crossed, arms in front of torso) she may be shy or nervous to talk to you. Watch for subtle signs in the girls face, if her eyes are dilating then she may really like you. If her lip quivers slightly when you look at her you can almost be sure she likes you.
Notice little things she does for you. If she's always there for you when you need help, even like when you mention that you're really thirsty and she quickly offers you a sip from her drink, she might like you. But don't assume that she's into you only from one experience. Ask her occasionally for small things, like chewing gum or a pen, and notice how she reacts. If she's always ready to offer you something you might need, go further and ask her to help you with something else, like a school/work problem. It shouldn't be something really easy to solve, but not too difficult either, as some girls who aren't too smart might say that they don't know how to help you with those kind of things. If she's eager to help you, she probably likes you, although if you do this too much or with too difficult tasks, she may think you're lazy and/or stop liking you if she did.
Look at her lips. If she touches them constantly or bites them, she's probably interested in you.
If, after all those steps you've realised that she might actually like you, go talk to her. Many girls are usually too shy to start a conversation and if she's crushing on you, talking to you will make her happy for days.
- If she constantly asks about your status with girls and asks your
preference in types of girls, then she is likely fishing to see if she
might meet your interests.
- However, do not assume that simply by asking you your preference in girls, that she has a crush on you. Confidant girls will often ask boys for their opinion when it comes to fashion (i.e perfume) or attractive personality types, to get an idea what boys like in general. They key to distinguishing between the two is that a girl who's attracted to you will attempt to conceal the question, or pretend to not being particularly interested (while the opposite is obviously true), whereas a girl just looking for your opinion will directly ask you the question without any hesitation.
- If you find out that a girl likes you, don't act like she is from another planet or has the flu. Girls don't like it and their hearts can be very fragile, so be careful. Don't be mean or give her the cold shoulder because IF you do end up liking her eventually, she may not give you another chance. Also, that kind of mistake can mess up your reputation as being a good boyfriend.
- A lot of shy girls usually won't admit that they like you unless they know that you like them too, so if she denies it to someone not close to her, don't lose hope! If you like a girl, ask to become friends. If she is interested, then obviously there is something there. If she objects to a friendship, don't take it personally, as there are plenty of other girls out there.
- Do something nice like cleaning something up for her or doing her a favor. Then see how she reacts. If she eventually tries to do something nice to you back, this might be a hint that she likes you.
- If she asks you to go out and do something with her only or with another couple, this may indicate that she is trying to send you the message that she wants to be more than friends.
- Always be yourself. If a girl likes you for someone who wears expensive clothes, and you don't, then just don't date her.
- While there are certain body language signs that have commonly been associated with a girl "liking" a guy, do not get too excited just because she exhibits some. Body language is not completely universal, some girls express their feelings through different actions than others. Take your time, find out if she's actually interested by talking to her. A girl that's not interested will likely try and make excuses to end the conversation and get away from you.
- If she is very shy then she probably won’t be able to talk to you face to face. She will talk to you online instead, but even for some girls, this takes courage. If she talks to you online but shies away when she sees you then odds are she likes you a lot.
- If she brings you gifts from her trips or for your birthday she probably likes you, and when she points out how hard she tried to find something you might like, she might be giving you a hint. This only applies when you're not best friends.
- Girls might try the "jealous approach" and start flirting with your friends to make you notice them more. Be wary of these girls. If you really like her, pay more attention to her and try to get her alone - she might get the hint that you like her and stop trying so hard. And as much as you may want to, don't do the same thing back. Girls are more sensitive and will probably just give up on you if you do that.
- Remember that these are not rules and do not definitely mean that she likes you. Also keep in mind that she may like you without doing any of these.
- If she seems to be purposely avoiding contact with you, beyond
simply being quiet in your presence, but actively avoiding any chance to
talk to you, even in contexts that aren't embarrassing (such as a group
discussion), chances are she thinks you like her; and is not only not
interested but, annoyed/creeped out by your advances. It's not personal,
as girls feel threatened when a guy they aren't interested in is
attempting to court them. Due to the fact that boys are usually the
aggressors in a courtship, girls have difficulty ignoring unwanted
advances. This is a queue to back off, and give her space.
- Don't necessarily give up entirely, as you may be mistaken, but slow down and give her room to breathe. She may be interested in you, but is uncomfortable being courted in public, in which case you should perhaps be more subtle about expressing your interest.
- Do not over-analyze her behavior. Doing so may result in your becoming obsessed with simply "winning her over", rather than getting to know her as a person. Rather than investing tons of time in determining whether or not she likes you, just take opportunities every now and then to spend time with her and her friends (not excessively however, or you may appear to have no social life of your own), getting to know her as a person. Starting off as a friend+crush gives you a chance to connect on a more real level, just make sure to make your intentions relatively clear (via subtle flirting), or else you may become permanently "friend-zoned"
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