Saturday, June 16, 2012

Stranger

It's Sad
When You Have Already
Learned To Be A Part Of Someone's Life
& You Just End Up Being Strangers.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Every NO is for a better YES

"Don’t hate all Roses if you got hurt by one thorn.

Don’t Lose faith in ALLAH Ta'ala if one Du'aa wasn’t answered.
Don’t give up all your Dreams if one didn’t come true.
Don’t condemn all your Friends if one treats you differently.
And Be sure every NO is for a better YES.
Put your trust in ALLAH, The Almighty,
Cause ALLAH Ta'ala Loves those who put their trust in Him."

Sunday, May 6, 2012

22 Tips on self-esteem

1. Set an intention. Before you get out of bed, decide what kind of day you want to have. Make a deliberate, conscious decision about how you want to create your day. Write it down. Play a little with how it might feel. When you get up, act accordingly. Remind yourself throughout the day of your intention. Look for ways your intention is playing out in your world. Suggested intention: Today is the best day ever!

2. Be true to yourself. Live your life doing what feels right to you, not what someone else thinks you should do. It’s ok to listen to advice, but in the end, make the decision that feels best for you. Being a people pleaser is a very frustrating way to live. Get in the habit of pleasing yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness. Your feelings are important.

3. Change your mental diet. Read uplifting books. Listen to uplifting tapes and CDs and attend uplifting workshops. What you focus on expands. What you put your attention on becomes more real. Don’t focus on negativity. Stop watching the news. Avoid whiners and complainers. Walk away.

4. Be aware of what your monkey mind, the voice in your head, is saying. Widen back and observe your thoughts. If a particular thought isn't kind or isn’t serving you, note this and redirect your focus to what you are wanting. This may take a bit of practice. Remember to be kind to yourself as you are gaining awareness and strengthening your will.

5. Upgrade your physical diet. Processed foods contain very little nutritional value when compared to raw, organic fruits and vegetables. Eat fresh produce rather than processed foods whenever possible. Drink plenty of water, fresh juices and smoothies instead of caffeinated beverages or energy drinks. Add nutrient dense superfoods to your diet. When you take care of your body by supplying it with good nutrients, you will naturally feel better and have more energy.

6. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.

7. Create an uplifting environment for yourself. This can be joyful colors, uplifting music, nature photos, plants, uplifting posters, open windows… you decide. Wear clothes that you feel good in.

8. Celebrate your successes. Even the small ones. Don't wait to get perfect. Any progress at all is worthy of celebration. When you celebrate, you are telling the universe “I am loving this. Please give me more!” Yay!

9. Be grateful. You have much to be grateful for. Before you go to bed each night, write down ten

things you are grateful for that day and why. This is an important step. Gratitude alone can turn things around for you. What are you grateful for right now?

10. Create a list of accomplishments and review it often. We tend to get overwhelmed looking at what’s left to be done and forget to give ourselves credit for how far we’ve already come.

11. Don’t take yourself, or life, too seriously. Lighten up. Dare to have fun. “Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly” ~ G.K Chesterton

12. Learn something new. Become an expert. Get curious and learn all there is to learn about what interests you. Learning is growing, and it feels good.

13. Do things that stretch your comfort zone. Anytime you feel fear, as long as it isn't life threatening, is an opportunity to grow! "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." ~Anais Nin

14. Do something nice for yourself. You deserve it! Maybe a massage, a bath or nap. Take yourself out on a date. Treat yourself with the same honor, courtesy, respect and kindness you would if you were taking someone else out that you really, really liked. The key here is to enbrace and enjoy the experience. Feeling guilty defeats the purpose.

15. Do something nice for someone else. Volunteer. Being of service, without expectation of reward, feels really good.

16. Spend time regularly doing things you find joyful. What make your heart sing? Do more of it! Remember being happy is not a selfish act. Your joy is a gift to the world! When you feel joyful, your joy is contagious.

17. Do something physical. Clean out a closet. Get out of the house. Go for a walk. Do some gardening. Visit the nature preserve. Exercise. Fly a kite. Ride a bike. Exercise produces endorphins that help you feel better. Also, being outdoors in the sunshine helps the body produce vitamin D, which contributes to a healthier, happier you.

18. Spend time with supportive, uplifting people. We do exist!

19. Create positive affirmations about yourself. Post them about your home. Say them often and out loud.

20. Allow yourself to be where you are. Just feel whatever you are feeling, without judging it or judging yourself for feeling it. Let go of the story you have created around it and just be with the feeling. Embrace it. Explore it. Feel it. All any feeling wants is to be felt fully. This can only be done when you let go of your resistance to feeling it, which is kept in place by the story and the judgment around it. Without the story and the labels, feelings are inherently neutral. Feel the feeling fully, then just let it dissolve.

21. Remind yourself often you are a miraculous, sacred, perfect expression of Life. Amazing, incredible you are worthy and loved always, without having to do a thing.

22. Spend some time just being. This is much easier in Nature. Go camping. Take a walk. Climb a tree. Sit by a stream. Put up a hammock and climb in. In reconnecting with the Earth and Nature, we slow down and have time for some inner reflection. Priorities become clearer. Who you truly are is more easily recognized here.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

True story

This is a story of a couple from Phillipins, There was a girl named Julie who used to fear falling in love because she has seen her mother's suffering, this girl has lost her father when she was 13 and her mother was left all alone with his memories & Stolen Moments !! Her father used to smoke a lot and because of smoking he suffered from cancer and died !

It's true no one knows destiny, this girl Julie who used to fear love and hate smokers has fallen in love with one of his class mate named McCoy who was a chain smoker. she used to tell his fathers story to him every-time they met expecting him to quit Smoking. she realized that he has started avoiding her as his friends used to tease him whenever he used to smoke with them. Julie wanted to see him happy so she stopped objecting him :'( and just after 3 months of her relationship she realized that he is suffering from a lung disease called emphysema caused due to smoking.

McCoy has fallen seriously ill and his treatment started, it continued for 2 years many times his health became so worst that doctors also thought he will die !! But it was Julie's love who kept him alive and recover, all these 2 years she spent all her time with him in the hospital.. she stopped going to college.. fought with parents.. invested all her pocket money.. and thus she defined love ..♥

The Boy Recovered And Has Quit Smoking !! He Has married Julie And now they both are living together !! He always feels guilty for not listening to Julie earlier, he now gives one message to everyone "Do 100 things that friends asks you to do, but please don't do at-least that one thing that your love don't want you to do ..♥"

"Friends, i will not say Smoking is dangerous for health because that is already written on the box of smoke but i will like to tell you.. that you started smoking for yourself now quit it for someone who loves you !!

next time when your Love or your parents ask you not to smoke recall this True Love Story and answer yourself that do you want them to suffer for a mistake that you are doing today"

We SHARE so many things on Facebook and in many other social networkd, but how many of us will share this true love story and request our friends not to smoke ??

　　Find "SHARE" Option and share this with friends.. :)

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

I don't know how to tell you what i feel about you

I knew that this moment would come in time...
that i'd have to let go and watch you fly...
i know you're coming back so why am i dying inside...
are you searching for words that you can't find?...
trying to hide your emotions, eyes don't lie...
guess there's no easy way to say goodbye...

don't misunderstand what i'm trying to say...
i don't want to let you leave this way...
i want you to know that i'll stand right by your side...
and i know, this maybe...
the very last time that we'll see each other cry...
whatever happens know that i'll be standing at the edge of the earth...
hoping that one day you'll come back again...
i'll be praying for whatever its worth...
believing that one day you'll come back again...

waiting for someday... believing in someday... praying for someday...
i'll be longing for someday... clinging to someday... cherishing someday...
i'll be thinking of someday... dreaming of someday... wishing for someday...
i'll be living for someday... counting on someday... knowing that one day...
i will see you...
I am sorry I could not tell you what I feel about you deep inside.
Now i am a fool to miss you after letting you go.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Need members

Recently I have created a forum for this blog. This blog needs members. Blog needs your support. Feel free to visit forum on the menu bar at the top. Registration is free, will be free for ever. It is much fun with more and more people with different ideas from different part of the world. Be firs in your country to be a member of this forum.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

How to Know if a Girl Likes You [ like she is in LOVE ;) ]

Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks mean? Think you have a secret admirer? Follow these steps to find out if she really likes you, they'll help.

Step 1:

Strike up a small conversation. This will help you learn little things that will come in handy in the future. If you like a girl, don't let her slip away, tell her the truth, but if you don't like her and she told you that she does, don't say anything...it can break her heart. And when she tells you that, and, you don't like her, tell her that she's a great person. Girls like it when boys say they like something that they did or either said you're great at something. All girls are different, so be aware of the signs. Listen to the tone of her voice: if she's shy, the tone of her voice might be a little more soft, and she might start to play with her hair (smoothing it down, twirling, flipping), adjusting her clothes, and might stare at you. Another sign she likes you is if she laughs at only your boring or stupid joke. (Though, don't use bad jokes as a test, or you'll risk looking like a comedy dork.) She may not be able to look you straight in the eye and she might giggle a lot because she is thinking of funny, nice gossip.

Step 2:

Watch for signs of flirting. If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Flirting girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends, and it can be misconstrued as a crush. Although some girls have no idea they are flirting. Most girls do not want to be obvious, the flirting ones might flirt with you a little bit less or they might flirt with you even more. Either way, don't "flirt around". Do not flirt with other girls. If she ever sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl hugging you, she may jump to conclusions and assume she doesn't mean anything to you. And she has nothing you like or she doesn't act the way you like girls.

Step 3:

Notice if she gives you random hugs. With this, you can go along with it if you want, or just act busy like you're late for class or something.

Step 4:

Notice if she "accidentally" bumps into you more often than what people do (she's obviously trying to touch you or feel how strong or soft you are). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. Tell her it was okay and you're fine. But conversely, don't assume that she doesn't like you because her fall didn't touch you. She may be too nervous of you to touch you yet. Break the touch barrier yourself. She may also find other reasons to touch you, such as by lightly hitting you about the head, or soft punching to the body.

Step 5:

Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. Some girls might just be staring so don't think she loves you and wants to kiss. But if she holds the stare, and you see love in her eyes, then she is confident and she may make the first move. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.

Step 6:
Look at her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you. If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" Her friends might be making it up, however, just to tease her. So you should probably listen to stuff like, "stop teasing me!" or "be quiet! He might hear!!" When she is having a conversation with her friends, and you come over, she might stop talking all of a sudden. This likely means you were the subject of the recently ended conversation. If she likes you and she told her friends about you, they might come up to you and start a random conversation about things such as: Who would you rather date me or (her name), who do you like better, who is the hottest, would you marry (her name) or me, etc. If they name a list of about 3 people and her name is in the list, she probably told her friends about you and they're trying to search for clues to see how you feel about her.

Step 7:

Look out for the damsels in distress. If you're outside and the girl you like is nearby and starts loudly saying "I'm cold!", that's a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. This is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her. If there are other guys and she likes one of those guys, however, she might act disappointed when you offer yours to her first, look for her mad and tell her that who ever she likes gave it to him to give it to her. In which case at least you'll know how she feels and can move on. Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at something, and say that they can't do it. That is your chance to offer some assistance, and she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to see your reaction.

Step 8:

Smile at her. Do a natural smile - don't freak her out. If she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, she is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.

Step 9:

Watch her body language. You can gather a lot about a girl by her body language and there are a lot of signs that will tell you she's interested. For example, if a girl has her torso towards you in an open manner this means she is confident talking with you. If she has a 'closed' body position (ie. legs crossed, arms in front of torso) she may be shy or nervous to talk to you. Watch for subtle signs in the girls face, if her eyes are dilating then she may really like you. If her lip quivers slightly when you look at her you can almost be sure she likes you.

Step 10:

Notice little things she does for you. If she's always there for you when you need help, even like when you mention that you're really thirsty and she quickly offers you a sip from her drink, she might like you. But don't assume that she's into you only from one experience. Ask her occasionally for small things, like chewing gum or a pen, and notice how she reacts. If she's always ready to offer you something you might need, go further and ask her to help you with something else, like a school/work problem. It shouldn't be something really easy to solve, but not too difficult either, as some girls who aren't too smart might say that they don't know how to help you with those kind of things. If she's eager to help you, she probably likes you, although if you do this too much or with too difficult tasks, she may think you're lazy and/or stop liking you if she did.

Step 11:

Look at her lips. If she touches them constantly or bites them, she's probably interested in you.

Step 12:

If, after all those steps you've realised that she might actually like you, go talk to her. Many girls are usually too shy to start a conversation and if she's crushing on you, talking to you will make her happy for days.

TIPS:

If she constantly asks about your status with girls and asks your preference in types of girls, then she is likely fishing to see if she might meet your interests.
- However, do not assume that simply by asking you your preference in girls, that she has a crush on you. Confidant girls will often ask boys for their opinion when it comes to fashion (i.e perfume) or attractive personality types, to get an idea what boys like in general. They key to distinguishing between the two is that a girl who's attracted to you will attempt to conceal the question, or pretend to not being particularly interested (while the opposite is obviously true), whereas a girl just looking for your opinion will directly ask you the question without any hesitation.
If you find out that a girl likes you, don't act like she is from another planet or has the flu. Girls don't like it and their hearts can be very fragile, so be careful. Don't be mean or give her the cold shoulder because IF you do end up liking her eventually, she may not give you another chance. Also, that kind of mistake can mess up your reputation as being a good boyfriend.
A lot of shy girls usually won't admit that they like you unless they know that you like them too, so if she denies it to someone not close to her, don't lose hope! If you like a girl, ask to become friends. If she is interested, then obviously there is something there. If she objects to a friendship, don't take it personally, as there are plenty of other girls out there.
Do something nice like cleaning something up for her or doing her a favor. Then see how she reacts. If she eventually tries to do something nice to you back, this might be a hint that she likes you.
If she asks you to go out and do something with her only or with another couple, this may indicate that she is trying to send you the message that she wants to be more than friends.
Always be yourself. If a girl likes you for someone who wears expensive clothes, and you don't, then just don't date her.
While there are certain body language signs that have commonly been associated with a girl "liking" a guy, do not get too excited just because she exhibits some. Body language is not completely universal, some girls express their feelings through different actions than others. Take your time, find out if she's actually interested by talking to her. A girl that's not interested will likely try and make excuses to end the conversation and get away from you.
If she is very shy then she probably won’t be able to talk to you face to face. She will talk to you online instead, but even for some girls, this takes courage. If she talks to you online but shies away when she sees you then odds are she likes you a lot.
If she brings you gifts from her trips or for your birthday she probably likes you, and when she points out how hard she tried to find something you might like, she might be giving you a hint. This only applies when you're not best friends.

Warnings:

Girls might try the "jealous approach" and start flirting with your friends to make you notice them more. Be wary of these girls. If you really like her, pay more attention to her and try to get her alone - she might get the hint that you like her and stop trying so hard. And as much as you may want to, don't do the same thing back. Girls are more sensitive and will probably just give up on you if you do that.
Remember that these are not rules and do not definitely mean that she likes you. Also keep in mind that she may like you without doing any of these.
If she seems to be purposely avoiding contact with you, beyond simply being quiet in your presence, but actively avoiding any chance to talk to you, even in contexts that aren't embarrassing (such as a group discussion), chances are she thinks you like her; and is not only not interested but, annoyed/creeped out by your advances. It's not personal, as girls feel threatened when a guy they aren't interested in is attempting to court them. Due to the fact that boys are usually the aggressors in a courtship, girls have difficulty ignoring unwanted advances. This is a queue to back off, and give her space.
- Don't necessarily give up entirely, as you may be mistaken, but slow down and give her room to breathe. She may be interested in you, but is uncomfortable being courted in public, in which case you should perhaps be more subtle about expressing your interest.
Do not over-analyze her behavior. Doing so may result in your becoming obsessed with simply "winning her over", rather than getting to know her as a person. Rather than investing tons of time in determining whether or not she likes you, just take opportunities every now and then to spend time with her and her friends (not excessively however, or you may appear to have no social life of your own), getting to know her as a person. Starting off as a friend+crush gives you a chance to connect on a more real level, just make sure to make your intentions relatively clear (via subtle flirting), or else you may become permanently "friend-zoned"

Top 10 Ways to Propose a Girl

Are you nervous on how to propose to your girl? Well, don’t be. Here are some tips that can help you in knowing the best ways in which you can propose to a girl. The one thing that you should keep in mind while proposing is that girls are very sensitive and every girl are different from the other. So make sure that your way of proposing to the girl should be unique in your own way, and should be according to the temperament of the girl.
Some of the best ideas for proposing a girl are mentioned below. Try them out and win the heart of your lady.
1. Be yourself. This is the first rule that you need to get into your mind when you think of proposing a girl. Do not overdo your proposal. Keep it simple yet special and sweet. Be who you are, and in your own special way say those three golden words.

2. Another old way of proposing is going down on your knees with a red rose in your hand. Though this is an old way of proposing, this still goes down the line and is bound to impress any girl.

3. Make her feel special by taking her out for a quiet romantic dinner. Prepare well and have her favorite dishes ordered for the two of you. Have her favorite music playing in the background and find a nice romantic moment to propose her. She will definitely be moved by the effort that you would have taken for arranging the special dinner.

4. You can get a banner prepared with the word I Love You and have it displayed outside her house or in the workplace. It is advised that you do not use her real name on the banner, but use the endearment that you generally use to call her.

5. Take her to the place where you met each other for the first time. Recreate the same moment and then propose to her. It will definitely move her and get embossed on her memory for lifetime.

6. If it is possible for you and you can afford it, have your proposal written on the sky. You can contact the skywriting company and have it arranged when the two of you are together.

7. You can make arrangement for asking your neighbors to put off their lights and have the windows lit up in the words I Love You. Take her to the balcony and open her eyes when everything is set. She will definitely love this.

8. You can drive to the beach in the evening and with some romantic soft music playing. Just as the sun is going down whisper the three words that she is longing to hear in her ears. This will definitely make her melt.

9. If both of you are the adventurous kinds, then you can plan an early morning trek to a nearby place, and when the sun is rising go on your knees and propose her on top of the summit.

10. If you want to make it dramatic and funny, then you can have a water gun and hold it out on her and say you are under arrest, and when she is all shocked and panicky then say for stealing my heart and say out I Love You.
With these great ideas you can definitely win her heart. So pull up your sleeves and walk up to her and say out what you have in your heart.

Useful Tips To Propose A Girl

Love a girl but scared to propose her? Thinking about how to propose a girl? Then here is your solution. Falling in love is human nature but people who are in love find it hard to express or are scared to lose the present time with their partners. Also they don't know about the feelings from other side so it is best to express your feelings with the girl you like or love.

Here are few ways or tips on how to propose a girl:

Girls are very filmy which means they are very romantic and they would love the traditional method to propose a girl where the boy sit on his knees with flowers and expresses his feelings. If you feel shy to do this in public then take her to a place where both are comfortable.

If you feel traditional method is very common then take her out with her alone for some quality time. This will help you get the strength to put forward your feelings. Candle-light dinner is loved by girls. Fulfill her fantasies like candle-light dinner, knowing her favorites and applying them.

Respect the girl and make her feel that you are mad for her but don't let your dignity fall.

Never beg much in front of a girl. Majority of girls don't like too much of begging. The boy also throws an impression that he is desperate and useless. So, keep your attitude and don't show more than 2-3 times that you want her.

Always see to it that the girl also feels comfortable with your company. Try to build proximity by texting her sometimes and sharing some chats like “How was your day? " “What did you do? " “What do you plan next? " This will help develop friendship.

Never be fake. Lies can't be tolerated by anyone. Be true and tell in a clear way such as “I plan to become an engineer but I feel alone sometimes. I want your company to be happy everyday and every moment."

To propose a girl, take her to the location where you two met first. Prepare an artistic drawing like banner expressing 'I Love You' or else spread rose petals on the floor in a heart shape or girl's name followed by the touching three words- 'I Love You'.

Skywriting is new and expensive method of proposing. Write on the sky and express yourself. The girl will surely fall in love with you that moment.

Go for a ride or drive with her in the late afternoon and softly express these three words while the sun sets. The girl will surely say YES!

Now don't think How to propose a girl. Be brave to tell what you fee. Follow these tips to propose a girl and see the magic of expressing three magical words- I Love You!